Starting off the week with a discussion about nipples, because surely this has to be a good way to kick off the week?? I mentioned in a blog post last week some comments I had in a video about wearing a teeny tiny dress, but in that same video the main feedback I got was about wearing white t-shirts without a bra on, nipples out for the world to see.
I am often amazed by how many comments I get about it, about how many people find it uncomfortable - I never want my content to make my viewers feels uncomfortable or alienated from me in any way, so I take feedback like this seriously. The reason I find it hard to get my head around is because it isn’t something I give that much thought to. To often go braless was a decision I made after loving how Rachel’s 90s looks in Friends looked, and seeing so many images on Tumblr where nipples through a t-shirt just looked so cool. Some outfits I think it works, some look better with a bra - that is the level of thought that goes into it. I never notice being stared at, I have never been in public and felt uncomfortable about that sartorial decision. I don’t want it to be taken as a huge decision in my content either, and the last thing I want is for anyone watching to feel uncomfortable - and I really don’t think anyone should. Some people comment saying they think looks would be better with a bra, that I totally get, and is no different to someone commenting suggesting I style any item of clothing differently. But comments that imply some things need to be left to imagination, or anything else along those lines, are the ones I try to ignore. It’s up to each of us how much of our bodies we want to show, and I personally don’t find a white t-shirt without a bra to be indecent by any stretch of the imagination.
The only ever comment I have had about in real life was from a women in Amsterdam. It was super early in the morning and I was buying a coffee in the cafe underneath the apartment we stayed in. The lady who served me followed me out and then asked me how I had the confidence to go out without a bra on - that she loved how it looked and wished she could do it but felt she couldn’t. I said the same thing I say to all of you; if you feel good that’s all that matters, so just give it a go. If you go out braless, feel you need to spend the day with your arms crossed, feel like you’re watching out for people’s stares, then it isn’t for you and that’s fine! But if you feel confident, love the comfort and how it looks then go for it - and that applies to ANY item of clothing.
So all in all, you can expect to seeing my nipples through t-shirt, and I hope all of you always know you can make any decisions you want when you get dressed. As long as you feel good, it’s so easy to not care what others think. As I said my concern was the idea my content could be alienating some people due to something as small as this, and I hope this post addresses that in some ways. Nipples really aren't a big deal at all, and bras are obviously as uncomfortable as hell so it’s always a good plan to ditch them.